Happy Thursday! Long time no see. Every time I think I will have more time and will get back into blogging something come sup at work or with my husband or with the dogs and any free time I might have had is sucked away. That's life right? Anyway, one of the things the hubs and I have been intentional about this year is limiting screen time at home. We don't watch T.V. but since we both work in media we are on our phones or computers all the time. So when we come home we put the screens away which of course also means no blogging. Anyway, let's jump into this weeks thinking out loud!
1. These two are doing so good practicing their manners for when my parents come visit at the end of the month. We've been working hard on sitting, staying, no jumping (Zeke), and being well mannered pups. Of course we practice with treats because these are two VERY motivated pups when the treats come out. I'm praying by the time my parents come all the time we spend practicing won't be for nothing 🙏
2. Some exciting news ZEKE HAS BEEN SLEEPING IN! PRAISE JESUS. Last weekend he slept in until 4 and has since slept in until 4:30 and 5 so I'm praying we're on the right track. Five months of no sleep with a crying puppy has been horrible. We are seriously sleep deprived so we're crossing our fingers that we may be turning a corner. Sleep is such a wonderful thing, Ginger loves it and gets highly annoyed when we wake her so we've been trying to teach Zeke the same. Sleep is worth its weight in gold buddy, savor it. But please just sleep because mom and dad need it.
3. Sometimes we find funny things at work. We found this in a car and of course had to test it out to see what was on it. While the music did not live up to screwing music, unless you'd like to get it on to Fergie, Rob Thomas, or Alisha Keys. It was a good throwback mix CD though and I enjoyed all the elementary and middle school memories associated with them.
4. Reasons not to take your husband to a home decor store ⬆️ I turn around for a second and he's rearranged the letters to BALLS. Men. Can't live with them, can't live without them.
5. Hands down my favorite picture of the past week. Zeke was just cheesing so hard. A lot of time he will sit in front of you and start cheesing like he's waiting for you to pet him. He's a devilish little boy, but it's a good thing he's cute. I also had a sad moment at the vet when they said he was all grown up, seems like just yesterday he was our baby boy 😭
Anyway, I hope you have a terrific Thursday and a great weekend!
The questions started literally the day we got engaged and then again on our wedding day. We hardly had time to celebrate before a barrage of people started asking us, "When are you guys going to have kids?" I'm sure each person who asked us meant no harm, but it bothered me. A lot.
My rather sassy self that I attempt (and mostly fail) to keep under wraps wants to tell every person who asks it's none of their dang business. Because it's not.
Imagine asking a couple when they were going to have unprotected relations in the hopes of making a baby. No one in their right mind would ask anyone that, but that's really what you're asking when you ask someone about having kids. Do you honestly expect a newly engaged or newly wed couple to whip out a calendar and tell you, "Well Susan we were hoping to copulate on May 24, 2022 and conceive our first child. Then two years later we will copulate again to conceive our second child." HECK NO. It's none of your dang business. A couples sexual (or lack of sexual) life is not your business. Not now. Not five years from now. NOT EVER.
Now, put yourself in that couples place. Imagine you've been married for a few years, people are asking when you're going to have kid so you fake a smile and tell them hopefully soon. Meanwhile you struggle to hold back tears because you've gone years without a positive pregnancy test and each month the negative pregnancy test crushes your soul and your dreams of having a family just a little bit more.
How would you feel?
Gut wrenching. Hopeless. Defective. These are just a few words that come to mind. These are words I've heard spoken from friends and family members as they're sobbing about yet another negative pregnancy test. Yet another miscarriage.
Infertility, disease, being sterile, genetics, and the list goes on.
There are so, so many reasons people struggle to or are incapable of having a baby, yet none of those reasons make them any less human.
Let me repeat that. Being unable to have a child does not make anyone less of a human. We should be wrapping our arms around these men, women, and these couples.
Infertility, disease, being sterile, genetics, and all the other reasons that make getting pregnant or having a baby really hard or impossible suck. No one wants to be infertile or have cancer or anything else. There are so many battles people are facing that you have no idea about. And you don't need to know about the battles that happen behind closed doors. But you need to remember these are people who are experiencing something very real and something very soul crushing, but each time they go out they put a fake smile on and tell you they're going to have kids soon when you ask.
There are also couples who just don't want kids for any number of reasons. And guess what? That's ok to.
Life is what you make it. You don't have to get married, have two point five kids, and live in a house with a white picket fence. Not everyone wants that and that's ok.
Don't ask anything you wouldn't want to be asked. And when you think about asking do a kindness check- Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? Is it beneficial? If you can't answer yet to every single question keep your question to yourself.
Instead of asking a couple when they're going to have kids tell them how happy they look together. Ask about a trip they took. Ask about their pets. But don't ask about kids.
Everyone is facing a battle you know nothing about so be kind and keep your questions to yourself.
